Neurodivergent Couples Therapy
In recent years there has been a boom in people being diagnosed with adhd and Autism. Unfortunately however, so often after the initial diagnosis people are left on their own to grapple with understanding what the diagnosis means, for themselves, for their lives, and for their relationships with others.
Neurodivergence remains little understood, but it is vital to be properly armed with as much information as possible in order to thrive rather than just survive. This knowledge will also allow for better connection to the people we love.
I am neurodivergent myself and am only too aware that the prospect of therapy can often be very daunting for neurodivergent individuals and so I look to create a supportive and affirming environment. Neurodivergence is a different rather than a disordered way of being.
I encourage clients to share their individual needs and preferences to make the process as comfortable as possible
Sessions can be held face to face or via zoom
Sessions times can be adjusted if longer sessions feel too overwhelming.
Sessions are made a sensory friendly environment to suit individual needs
Communication is clear and consice to avoid ambiguity
Use of diagrams or other visual aids are available to enhance better understanding
Regular breaks can be taken, and the use of fidget toys is encouraged if helpful
I encourage an initial introduction call or email to ask any questions you may have - knowing what to expect from sessions can reduce anxiety. Sessions are supported with written information to aid learning.
As neurodivergent individuals tend to feel things very strongly, when their relationship is struggling it can cause a great deal of distress and overwhelm. While one partner might seek to process their distress verbally the other partner might shutdown and withdraw due to overwhelm. These different stress responces will cause further disconnection, so the earlier you seek couples therapy the quicker you can end this distructive cycle.
Neurodivergent relationships thrive with knowledge, understanding, curiosity, adjustments and acceptance.
Neither partner needs to be 'fixed' just better understood.
Often Couples are just working with two completely different operating systems and once those operating systems are fully understood magic happens!
I am here to support you on your journey towards better understanding and connection.
"We came to see Liz after I heard about her specialism in Neurodiversity from a friend she had helped. Our relationship was complex, with multiple Neurodiversities and complex trauma. We were stuck in an endless cycle of arguments that had left us both feeling drained and hopeless. Working with Liz has transformed our relationship. We developed a much deeper understanding of our neurodivergence and how it was effecting our relationship. The communication tool was invaluable, it allowed us both to feel fully heard and to work through the resentments we had been storing. Sessions were challenging at times but Liz's knowledge in this area gave us both the confidence to lean in to the process. I am forever grateful for her help, and highly recommend her services to any other neurodivergent couple seeking support'.J and T Symonds, London
